every 1st september we joke about getting ready for hogwarts to cover up the very real and very very deep scars of never getting our letters
Better get my shit packed for Hogwarts the train leaves tomorrow
how i deal with my feelings
- never talk about them
- barely acknowledge them
- hope they go away
- i don’t, basically
- that’s what i’m saying
- i do not deal with my feelings
Fuck, Marry, or Kill with Sleepy Hollow Cast - George Washington, Paul Revere, and Benjamin Franklin
NICOLE BEHARIE’S FACE
Photos by Kilian Schönberger
this is some straight up fairy tale shit right here.
mermaids who roam the seas in packs and hunt terrified sailors.
creatures with powerful tails, sleek, hydrodynamic bodies, and mouths lined with several rows of sharp, serrated teeth.
lethal beings who can detect a drop of blood from several miles away and sense electromagnetic fields emitted by moving prey.
Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”
P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”